Gentleness and self-control: Now, Connect is doing a preaching series on “Radical Discipleship.” Today’s focus is on “Gentleness and Self-control.” As these are fruits of the Holy Spirit, according to Galatians 5:23, and Christ lives in us by His Spirit (Eph 2:22), then these are characteristics of God that we should be able to witness to others. Is your self-control greater than your non-Christian friends’ self-control? It should be because it is the Holy Spirit who builds self-control in believers. If you lack self-control regarding sexual matters, money, anger, speech, food, alcohol, power, or in other areas known to you, then what can you do about it? Well, you can ask our Counsellor, the Holy Spirit, to guide you in the area you lack self-control. God gives freely to all who ask (Mt 7:9-11).
Sometimes we may also need counselling by a trained professional to help us understand the underlying reasons for our lack of self-control. For instance, a lack of self-control with food, associated with obesity, anorexia, or bulimia, can many times be related to past experiences where a person has been controlled by another.
In Galatians 5:23 “gentleness” is linked with “self-control.” That makes sense! A person who is self-controlled under trial will witness a gentle spirit. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath.” Try that approach next time somebody incites you. Philippians 4:4 says, “Let your gentleness be evident to all.” In the end, both gentleness and self-control are the fruit of an intimate relationship with God.